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This article discusses the differences between Soul Mates and Twin Flames as well as giving hints and tips as to how you can attract your Twin Flame into your life or deepend your current relationship. Introduction
June is the month when we reach the summer equinox. The sun is at its height. The days are long and warm and our thoughts turn to romance. Archangel Haniel the angel of Love, ruler of Venus the planet of love, is moving closer to our lives and encouraging us to open our heart chakras to unconditional love and to develop wonderful glowing relationships with ourselves and others.
Relationships, the bane of our existence! Our whole lives revolve round them. Relationships with parents, siblings, bosses, work colleagues, children, friends and of course that all important romantic relationship. The Twin Flame, the Soul Mate, the perfect one, the one we dream of. Whether you are in a relationship, want a relationship or not, there will be something in this article for you. You will find out what stops you, as well as how to bring that all important relationship into your life.
This article is about the difference between Soul Mates and Twin Flames and how to develop rewarding relationships. The principles apply to any kind of relationship and although I am writing with women from Venus in mind, the men from Mars reading this will also gain insight into how to develop wonderful sustaining relationships. Remember at the end of the day it is THE QUALITY OF THE RELATIONSHIP THAT MATTERS NOT WHO YOU HAVE IT WITH.
What is the difference between Soul Mates & Twin Flames. My belief is that we have a number of Soul Mates, souls within our own soul group which we work with in many life times. Who have chosen similar life paths. We love these souls and they love us and we agree pre-life to help each other with gaining the experiences we chose for this lifetime. For instance if a soul has been a betrayer it may want to experiencing being betrayed. A soul’s may have chosen to overcome their fear of rejection but do so someone has to love them enough to reject them because none of us really wants to hurt another but sometimes it is necessary and perhaps it is also part of that pre-soul agreement. Also soul mates will keep coming until we learn that lesson. This is why we often seem to attract the same type of relationships and issues into our lives. When we learn that lesson and move on then we attract someone different.
Some soul mates come into your life very briefly, a smile on the street with a stranger that lifts your spirits, the word that makes you reconsider action that would not be beneficial to you. Soul Mates appear in many ways. You feel the connection and it can often be mistaken as a life partner because you are so close and you do know each other from many life times.
Twin Flames come into your life when you are ready. When you have removed the blockages that stop you loving and caring for yourself and others. When you no longer fear rejection or betrayal. When you no longer fear being happy in case it is taken away from you. No point in meeting the perfect person if your still not ready.
BUT WHAT IS A TWIN FLAME. For me your twin flame is the other half of yourself. The one who loves you unconditionally. They don’t have to agree with you but support you no matter what. For whom you can do no wrong. Who is the bread to your butter, the soil to your seed, that nurtures you until you grow into the beautiful flower you are and for who you do the same. You may even be with your twin flame and not necessarily be aware of it because you have not taken the time to notice and fully develop the relationship. We all fear being let down, betrayed, hurt. So often we don’t allow ourselves to develop our relationships to their full potential. Ask yourself what stops you experiencing a wonderful fulfilling rewarding passionate relationship. How do you hold yourself back? What do you do or don’t do that stops you?
There are 5 steps to attracting or developing that perfect relationship and they work for everyone. They are interchangeable. You may find you go back and forth between then as you progress. They apply to all your relationships even the one with yourself. YOU CAN’T CHANGE ANYONE ELSE BUT YOU CAN CHANGE YOURSELF, your own behaviour, actions, perception, the way you communicate, etc. and that has a knock on effect, like a pebble in a pool with all the ripples going out that gently change everything both on top and under the surface as well.
You need to have the courage to be honest with yourself, to communicate your deepest thoughts and feelings to yourself and eventually to others effortlessly for the highest good of all concerned and to bring the perfect solution for everyone. So it doesn’t hurt to ask your God and/or the angels to help. You can do this alone or with friends, even with you partner, then compare notes. You will be amazed at what you learn.
Step 1 Review - Where are your relationships now?
1 Estatic, vibrant, passionate, trusting, growing, perfect But is there even more?
2 Good but room for improvement.
3 Stale – get along, companionable, better the devil you know. Do you even want to change or deepen it?
4 Thinking of leaving.
5 Happy alone thank you. Been there done that got the tea-shirt. (In which case take special notice of step 4)
Step 2 Now ask yourself What Kind of Relationship do you want?
What kind of person do you want in your life. Identify the qualities they will have. Such as, honest, loving, demonstrative, faithful. Remember everyone is different, fidelity is important to some but not to others. Don’t leave anything off your list and be careful what you wish for because the angels will bring it to you. Consider what you don’t want as well and put down their opposites.
Step 3 How will you know you have it?
How will you know someone has these qualities? Again everyone is different. How would you know someone loved you. What behaviour would express this to you. These are important questions so give yourself time to think them through. If you are in a relationship ask your partner. How doe he/she know you care? It’s unlikely to be the same way you show it.
Step 4 Who Do you WANT to be. Think back to what has been stopping you. What kind of relationships have you been attracting? How does your behaviour or thoughts about yourself contribute to this? Is your relationship a reflection of your own self-worth? How have you or haven’t you been expressing your love and how would you like to?
If you desperatly want a relationship or even if deffinately don’t, this is what you can do. BUILD YOURSELF A RICH AND REWARDING LIFE and you can guarantee someone is going to want to share it. What do you have to loose? For when that “Mr/Miss Right for Now” comes in you can be everything you want to be without fear because if it should end you would still have a rich and rewarding life!!! When you meet someone they are attracted to you as you are not to who you try to be to please them.
So ask yourself “WHO do I want to BE, in this relationship or out? What qualities do I want to experience in my life and relationships”? Who are we now and who do we want to be? How do we behave, how would we like to behave? We have free will. We can change our thoughts and behaviour any time we choose. We can choose to remember the good times and focus on good outcomes, positive happenings rather than negative ones and thus FEEL GOOD NOW. Where we chose to put our thoughts affects how we feel.
We are DIVINE BEINGS IN HUMAN BODIES ON A JOURNEY OF DEVELOPMENT and as such we are growing and learning every day. What we said, did, thought, yesterday may not be who we are today. It’s not that yesterday we weren’t “good enough” just that we learn something so now we would do it differently. We don’t need to regret the past or even feel guilty, just be gentle with ourselves and pat ourselves on the back. Well done we learnt something.
If we have the courage to be honest with ourselves and others, we can use our inter-personal relationships to help us both grow. They can act as our mirrors. Whatever we like and admire in someone is a quality we have that perhaps we don’t notice. What we don’t like in others we can change in ourselves. Just like flowers in a garden. If we water the flowers they will grow, if we ignore the weeds they will die. But if we water the weeds they will grow too. How often have you said or heard said – “if only he/she would show they cared”. “He/she is so insensitive, he/she never shows any emotion, I never know what they’re feeling”. But are you making yourself heard, are you showing your feelings, if so, are you showing them in a way they understand? We have to ask because we each perceive things differently. So “what can I do to make you feel more loved?” may be a question we can ask.
Step 5 Next steps – making it happen.
This is the fun bit. You know what you want to do and you have the rest of your life to do it in. So when you are ready write it all down and ask your God and/or the angels of Love to help you open your heart to the good qualities of all those around you including yourself NOW. Ask that you experience rich and rewarding relationships. To feel the love in your heart grow daily. Then burn your list and send it to the angels and let go of who, how, what and when, this experience will come into your life. By now you may have noticed you have a lot of it already from one source or another. REMEMBER THE QUALITY OF YOUR RELATIONSHIPS IS IMPORTANT NOT WHO YOU HAVE THEM WITH.
Most importantly spend a few minutes each day noticing what you have got, being grateful for what you have, imagining how you will feel when you have everything you want in your life. Ask your God or Haniel and any of the other angels to allow you to imagine how it will feel when all is perfect in your world. Experience those feelings of love, peace, joy, NOW and within your inner knowing KNOW that you are creating the life you choose in the current moment and your God, the Law of Attraction, the Angels, will do the rest when the time is right. No point in meeting the RIGHT person unless the time is right for both of you.
We have all been hurt in the past but do we regret the good times we had, of course not. There’s nothing against falling in love with being in love and everyone is “Mr/Miss Right for now” as we learn and grow. Let go of expectations and enjoy what’s there, don’t let your imagination run away with you. Who controls your thoughts, or your imagination? You or it? Think and imagine the good things. Your relationship is the time you spend together the rest of your life is your own. There is never a “should”. Let go of what “should” be because there is just what is and if it works for the two of you then that’s all that matters. How do you know someone loves you unconditionally? They love you regardless not because of.
True love is not a dream waiting to happen but it is exquisitely painful. When you feel the unconditional love of the angels for the first time it bring into awareness the lack of it and it hurts. The paradox of life you can’t have day without night and you can’t have love without pain but ask anyone who has used the process whether it’s worth it and they will all answer yes. So you too can have beautiful loving relationships. Copywrite Joylina Goodings May 2009. |
